Learning from a child

Last night, I rocked Owen before he went to bed. I usually sing to him, but I have been sick and have a cold, so I can't really sing. So we just talked. He told me about his day and he usually says he played a lot. But last night as we were talking, he said something that really almost made me speechless, and I had to apologize to my toddler.

He said: "Daddy doesn't play with me when the t.v. is on. Daddy plays with me when it's off." At first, I wasn't sure what I heard from my son, so i asked him again. He repeated it, and I was so surprised that he was able to see that at his young age. I was almost embarrassed to admit that there had been times when I would be glued to the t.v. even when he wants to play. I felt like the worst father in the world, so I apologized to him and asked him if he was mad. He said: "No." He then gave me a hug.

The lesson I learned here is that I can't underestimate how much my son does and doesn't comprehend. His observation was clear and simple. I promised him I would be better. For him, I am sure he didn't know the effect it would have in me, but since I want him to always know that I love him, and that he is important to me, I am willing to set aside my desire to watch certain shows so I can play with him.

It was truly a humbling experience to hear the words of a child - so honest and true. I love the fact that he communicates so well. He amazes me each day as he continues to grow and learn so many different things.

A few days ago, I asked him three questions. 1) Do you want a new train or daddy at home? 2) Do you want a big big new train or daddy at home? 3) Do you want a really really new big train or daddy at home? To my amazement, he said: "I want daddy home. I like you home. You play with me." It makes me smile inside and out. I love being a father. I love being a husband. I love trying to be the best I can be for my loved ones so they will know that I am and will always be there for them.